The Greatest of These
Author: Nanette Thorsen-Snipes
My day began on a decidedly sour note when I saw my six-year-old wrestling with
a
limb of my azalea bush. By the time I got outside, he'd broken it. "Can
I take this to school today?" he asked.
With a wave of my hand, I sent him off. I turned my back so he wouldn't see the
tears gathering in my eyes. I loved that azalea bush. I touched the broken limb
as if to say silently, "I'm sorry."
I wished I could have said that to my husband earlier, but I'd been angry. The
washing machine had leaked on my brand-new linoleum.
If he'd just taken the time to fix it, the night before, when I asked him,
instead of playing checkers with Jonathan. 'What are his priorities anyway?' I
wondered.
I was still mopping up the mess when Jonathan walked into the kitchen.
"What's for breakfast, Mom?"
I opened the empty refrigerator. "Not cereal," I said, watching the
sides of his mouth drop. "How about toast and jelly?" I smeared the
toast with jelly and set it in front of him. Why was I so angry?
I tossed my husband's dishes into the sudsy water. It was days like this that
made me want to quit. I just wanted to drive up to the mountains, hide in a
cave, and never come out.
Somehow, I managed to lug the wet clothes to the Laundromat. I spent most of
the day washing and drying clothes, and thinking how love had disappeared from
my life. Staring at the graffiti on the walls, I felt as wrung-out as the
clothes left in the washers.
As I finished hanging up the last of my husband's shirts, I looked at the
clock. 2:30. I was late. Jonathan's class let out at 2:15. I dumped the clothes
in the back seat and hurriedly drove to the school.
I was out of breath by the time I knocked on the teacher's door and peered
through the glass. With one finger, she motioned for me to wait.
She said something to Jonathan and handed him, and two other children, crayons
and a sheet of paper. 'What now?' I thought, as she rustled through the door
and took me aside.
"I want to talk to you about
Jonathan," she said. I prepared myself for the worst. Nothing would have
surprised me.
"Did you know Jonathan brought flowers to school, today?" she asked.
I nodded, thinking about my favorite bush and trying to hide the hurt in my
eyes.
I glanced at my son busily coloring a picture. His wavy hair was too long and
flopped just beneath his brow. He brushed it away with the back of his hand.
His eyes burst with blue as he admired his handy-work.
"Let me tell you about yesterday," the teacher insisted. "See
that little girl?" I watched the bright-eyed child laugh and point to a
colorful picture taped to the wall. I nodded.
"Well, yesterday she was almost hysterical. Her mother and father are
going through a nasty divorce. She told me she didn't want to live. She wished
she could die. I watched that little girl bury her face in her hands and say,
loud enough for the class to hear, 'Nobody loves me.' I did all I could to
console her. But, it only seemed to make matters worse."
"I thought you wanted to talk to me about Jonathan," I said.

"I do," she said, touching the sleeve of my blouse. "Today, your
son walked straight
over to that child. I watched him hand her some pretty pink flowers and whisper, 'I love
you.'" I felt my heart swell with pride for
what my son had done.
I smiled at the teacher. "Thank you," I said, reaching for Jonathan's
hand, "you've made
my day."
Later that evening, I began pulling weeds from around my lopsided azalea bush.
As my mind wandered back to the love Jonathan showed the little girl, a
biblical verse came to me: "... now these three remain: faith, hope and
love. But the greatest of these is love."
While my son had put love into practice, I had only felt anger. I heard the
familiar
squeak of my husband's brakes as he pulled into the drive.
I snapped a small limb, bristling with hot pink azaleas, off the bush. I felt
the seed of love that God planted in my
family beginning to bloom, once again, in me.
My husband's eyes widened, in surprise, as I handed him the flowers. "I
love you," I said.